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I will be honest here: sometimes I need to vent. I need to vent about everything that I am going through as a stay-at-home-mom. I know that motherhood can be an incredibly challenging experience. Even when you are surrounded by people who love and understand you, it can be hard to find the time and space to talk about what you’re really going through. That’s why it’s important for stay-at-home-moms to have friends they can turn to for support.
When I was a new mom, I felt like I had to put on this perfect façade where everything was always perfect. “Oh, this is the best day ever! I am going to be such an energetic and present momma.” But in reality, that wasn’t the case! My first night with the baby at home, she woke up so many times and I wasn’t used to that. On top of that, her biological father wasn’t nowhere to be found because he was dodging my calls. (read my Healing after An Emotionally Abusive Relationship post here). I was having a hard time mentally. The feeding, the crying that seemed endless, having to soothe her back to sleep… it was difficult.
That’s when things started going downhill fast for me as a new momma: I was neglecting myself by not getting enough sleep or eating healthy foods at home. Still living with my mother and my siblings in a 4 bedroom apartment, my sense of self-worth was almost in the garbage…
But I knew it wasn’t going to be like that forever.
Find someone who is willing to listen
Finding someone who can actively listen to your struggles can help you process your feelings and develop constructive solutions. A supportive listening ear should be able to provide you with honest feedback and perspective. Find someone who is a good listener and who you can trust to keep your conversations confidential.
Be open and honest
Once you’ve found someone who can listen to you, it’s important to be open and honest about your struggles. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings and let your friend know how you’re really feeling. This can help create an environment where you can openly share your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement.
When the hard times hit, it’s okay to talk about them with a friend.
You don’t have to be alone in your struggles. You can talk about it with a friend and they will listen and care about what you are going through.
Set boundaries
It’s important to remember that your friend is not a therapist, and it’s important to set boundaries around the conversations you have. Make sure to ask your friend to respect your boundaries and not push you to talk about topics that make you uncomfortable. You should also be mindful of how much time you spend talking about your struggles and make sure to set aside time for other topics and other things to do.
Take action
Venting can be a useful tool for managing stress and anxiety, improving your mental health better, but it’s important to take action on your feelings as well. Once you’ve talked about your struggles with your friend, you can work together to come up with realistic solutions and ways to manage your emotions. This can be anything from scheduling regular self-care activities to seeking professional help.
There is so much pressure to be a perfect mother and have the perfect family, but this is not real life.
It’s also important to remember that you don’t have to be friends with people who make you feel bad about yourself. Friends can be toxic, especially if they put you down or make fun of what is important to you.
If someone isn’t supportive of your goals and dreams, it’s a red flag they are not a good friend. In fact, these are people I run away from.
-don’t trust people who make you feel bad about yourself
-don’t trust people who put you down
don’t trust people who are toxic to your mental health
don’t trust people who are not supportive of your goals
Your friend most likely understands what you are going through because they have been there too.
Your friend most likely understands what you are going through because they have been there too. They can help you stay positive, get through hard times and find solutions to problems. Friendships are important for mental health because they allow us to feel less alone in our struggles as mothers.
-friends can help you stay positive
-friends can help you get through hard times
-friendships are important for mental health
-friends can help you find solutions to problems
-friends can help you feel less alone
Venting to friends about struggles in motherhood is an important part of staying mentally healthy and keeping positive relationships
It’s important to talk about your struggles as a mom. It can be hard to do, especially if you’re feeling alone. Friends are the best people to talk to because they will listen, support you and make you laugh when you need it most.
-friends are the best people to talk to
-friends are the ones who will support you when you need it
-friends are the ones who will listen when you need it
-friends are the ones who will make you laugh when you need it
Sometimes you just need someone to listen!
Sometimes it isn’t about taking advice or telling your story. Sometimes it’s just about having someone there for you.
It can be hard to open up and talk about your struggles in motherhood, especially if they are different than the norm. We all want to feel like we have friends who will understand us, but sometimes that isn’t the case. You need to be able to trust the person you are talking to and be honest with them so they can give their best advice or just listen without judgement.
-it’s not always easy to talk about your struggles
-you need to be able to trust the person you are talking to
-you need to be able to be honest with your friend
-it’s important to have a friend who will listen and understand
Final thoughts
Venting to a friend about the struggles of motherhood can be a great way to stay mentally healthy while at home. Finding a supportive listening ear, being open and honest, setting boundaries, and taking action on your feelings can all help you improve your mental health. By finding the right person and being mindful of your conversations, you can make sure that your conversations are productive and helpful.
I hope this article has given you some insight into why it’s so important to vent to friends about struggles. Venting can be a great way to stay mentally healthy while also building positive relationships with other moms who understand what it’s like to go through hard times as well, but remember: don’t feel pressured into telling others if they don’t seem like the right person for you. you should always listen to your instincts when deciding whether or not someone will listen without judgmental attitudes towards their own experiences with parenting too.