My Body is Ruined After Having a Baby

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I remember what my body looked like before having babies: tight skin, perky breasts that didn’t need a bra, and a belly that wasn’t a baby belly that hang. I had the stretch marks on my thighs but I was okay with those.

And then I got pregnant with my firstborn daughter. All hell broke loose.

I was so itchy all the time and I found myself scratching my pregnant belly especially with a loofah in the shower. Those dark stretch marks started to creep…they were so dark and I found them so nasty. I’ve never felt so self-conscious about my body until after I gave birth to her. I felt so unattractive, so much so, that I would wear a shirt to have sex, I was embarrassed of my stretch marks and the fact that my body changed so much.

It’s no secret that pregnancy takes a toll on your body. I get that. We get that. But sheesh, after I gave birth I had to accept that my body did not look the same, my breasts weren’t as perky and I had a new belly with stretch marks all over. “Tiger stripes” is what people call them…and how do you fall in love with yourself after that?

My body is ruined after having a baby.

I know how you feel and the emotions that come with having a changing body that won’t snap back unless you work out like 5 days a week, lift 150 lbs., do 150 squats every day, do 100 crunches every day and that’s only mentioning the physical part of the work. What about the dietary portion of it?

This is what I have learned after having 3 babies within the last 6 years:

This is my body, and I am going to love it and accept it with all of its flaws.

But how?

I know that you keep thinking about those IG models that document their weight-loss and now they look goddesses and I know that you keep thinking, “why can’t that be me?” And this is the thing, you have to stop thinking about them. The worst thing you can do in this healing journey is compare yourself with other women that may or may not be going through the same thing as you.

Pregnancy can come with its ugly little friends: hyperemesis (HG), nausea, hair loss, discolored skin, low sex drive, vaginal dryness, yeast infections, changes in smell, strange cravings and who knows what else is out there. But you know what else, pregnancy comes with? Beauty, strength, centeredness, and life.

It took me a long time to accept my post-pregnancy body is mine now and that I cannot exchange it. But the one thing I can do, is change it…for the better.

Here’s what you do:

My Body is Ruined After Having a Baby

Accept your new body

Here’s the hard truth: you will never be that 24 year old with perky breasts and tight ass anymore (I know, I hate it too!) and that’s okay. Your body went through a lot of changes and it’s normal for it not to look the same. Accept, embrace it and love it.

Tell it “thank you for birthing my babies”

Your body went to work. The amount of work it put to care for a fully grown baby is astonishing. Say thank you for bringing your babies Earth-side. Appreciate her.

Don’t force yourself into pre-pregnancy clothing, instead, upgrade your wardrobe

After every pregnancy I find myself throwing out clothes because my body went through a huge change, so I never force myself into something that know for a fact won’t fit anymore or won’t look good. Spend some money to buy clothes that are going to look good for the body you have now.

Be mindful of social media

Try not to look at those IG models that snapped back after birth and you’re sitting there wondering “why do I look like a whale?” Don’t compare yourself to people who don’t even know you exist.

Leave the scale in the closet, or throw it out

If you decide to start working out, don’t worry too much about your weight. You’re more than numbers on a scale.

Start a skincare routine

If you have those tiger stripes I was talking about earlier or uneven skin tone (usually because of the hormonal changes), you might want to look into starting a skincare routine. Beauty Mission is great for new beginners who want to try out skin care products that have natural ingredients that won’t break the bank. Her Temple Body Butter was a LIFE SAVER for my second and third pregnancies; barely had any stretch marks or discoloration. I also use her feminine hygiene products that help me stay fresh and helps me with my libido. Apply my code MOMMABEAR for 15% OFF. Definitely check her out.

Be gentle with yourself; you have a brand new body

Yes, you read that right. Be gentle with yourself. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself because with everything that you have already going in your daily life, the last thing you need is to make yourself feel bad for not achieving you body goals. Love your body, it’s literally brand new. You didn’t have this body 10 years ago, or even 2 years ago. The point is to be gentle, take your time with you.


I always thought that my body is ruined after having a baby but the truth of the matter is, that I am starting to love it again. I am glad that I have someone who is obsessed with my body and makes me feel confident in my skin. I hope you have someone who makes you feel confident as well.

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